Author Archives: Autism and Oughtisms

Misusing the “spectrum” in “autism spectrum.”

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“We’ve all on the autism spectrum” is a claim I’ve come across very often over the years. Recently I’ve even had a couple of people use my writing to back up this odd claim, which is all the more bizarre … Continue reading

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Seinfeld’s Autism; A Symptom of So Much Else.

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Jerry Seinfeld recently shared the view that he feels he may be autistic, if autism was taken to a very “drawn-out scale.” Of course we all know that if you take autism to a very drawn-out scale, it’s not autism … Continue reading

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Blogging Anniversary #4 – Review of the past year.

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Each year on my blog’s anniversary, I have a look back on how far I’ve come, and share my most popular and noteworthy blog posts. It’s a good way for me to keep a record of how my blog is … Continue reading

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Review of Allen Frances’ “Saving Normal.”

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“Saving Normal” is a provocatively titled book by the equally provocative Allen Frances. He has at times been demonized in the autism community, particularly for his views about the over-expansion of the autism diagnosis; whereas many in the autism community … Continue reading

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Psychological Damage Caused By Using Government Disability Support Services

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Before I was a mother of an autistic child, I had certain presumptions about the services a family like mine would be entitled to. I thought mothers who had to quit their jobs to look after their high needs children … Continue reading

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The Challenges of Spotting Autism in Siblings

Whether I currently have one or two sons with autism, is waiting to be confirmed. I have an eight-year-old son whose autism was diagnosed at age three, and a second son who is strongly suspected to have autism but remains … Continue reading

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Information on NZ Political Parties & Disability, in the 2014 General Election.

It’s an election year here in New Zealand. Last time this event came around I created a post for each political party, looking at their attitudes, priorities and promises when it came to disability (and especially autism) in New Zealand. … Continue reading

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The Ever-Battling Narratives of “The Autism Parent.”

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Today I was contacted by a woman here in New Zealand, who wanted to share her research project with me – specifically she wanted to hear my thoughts on what she had written. The project written by Catherine Rivera-Puddle, is entitled … Continue reading

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Should Special Schools Be Shut Down? (Includes Poll)

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Should all special schools – schools that specifically and exclusively cater to children with special needs – be shut down? My personal experiences, and a look at the reality of what the two types of schooling have to offer, once made me … Continue reading

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One of the most enduring experiences for me as the mother of an autistic child, is a deep and growing sense of isolation. No, not just a sense, a reality of isolation. There was a time when the reality was … Continue reading

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